Day: June 21, 2011

I hate to admit it, but I am intimately acquainted with shame and guilt. I am on a quest to be free and to inspire freedom in others from life-stripping shame and needless guilt. I also want to encourage parents and teachers to avoid shame-based ways of shaping children’s behavior.  What is an example of shame-based language?  Here are a few: “You should be ashamed of yourself.”  “You are an embarrassment to the family.”  “Shame on you.”  “I am ashamed of you.”  “I am so disappointed in you.”  “You will never amount to anything.” Shaming language focuses on making the individual